Life surely brings challenges. No one gets through this life on earth without experiencing suffering. Sometimes we ride the ocean waves of life smoothly, yet sometimes, when the waves get really big or come one right after another, we can feel like we are swimming upstream or even drowning! Our life isn't how we want it to be. We struggle in our relationships and with ourself. These unresolved challenges can contribute to our feeling anxious, depressed, or agitated. In the face of these unpleasant feelings and stressful circumstances, we may resort to crutches like food, alcohol, or drugs to take the edge off. Or we may develop physical pain or medical problems. Stress can manifest itself in so many ways that compromise our well being. Through my own experience as both a therapist and a client, I know that there is a path out of this turmoil, and that I can help you through it.
Our ability to meet life's challenges is compromised when we've been emotionally injured. Our emotional wounding occurs in the context of relationship, often initially in the first relationships we have as human beings, which are those with our parents and caregivers. Therefore, healing those wounds must also occur in relationship... we can't do it alone or by ourselves. The "therapeutic relationship"-- the relationship you have with your therapist, is then of utmost importance, because only someone who has healed or is healing their own wounds will have the capacity to help you heal yours at a deep level. My own healing, therapy, and personal growth are very much a priority for me, because I know that only if I am working towards wholeness will I be able to help you.
Many psychotherapies are about trying to counteract symptoms or problems you may be experiencing by teaching you what would be a more desirable response to the problem you are having, then having you practice this response. These therapies may be about telling you to change your thinking or behavior, with the hope that eventually this new response or way of thinking will become stronger in your brain than your old response. The trouble with these approaches is that you have to continue to try to overcome your habitual response, rather than experience life without the problematic response. The last ten years I've been practicing a new approach to change called Coherence Therapy, an exciting new therapeutic modality which gets to the root of your problem and catalyzes change on a deep level. This therapy is experiential, not based on my analyzing you or telling you what to do. I find that this approach is often very effective. I became a certified practitioner of Coherence Therapy in 2016. I may also use other techniques with you depending on what, in my clinical judgement, will help you the most rapidly and profoundly. I also have training in Nonviolent Communication. For more info about that, please click here.